Talking to someone who knows

talking to someone who knows

…or at least in their mind ¬†ūüôā

Last week I had an interesting conversation that just hurt me to the core.  My typical day to day routine consists of talking with youth pastors all over the country.  I have heard all kinds of philosophies and stories of how student ministry happens in churches.  This conversation started out very typical and positive.  The students were active in serving the poor in their area and doing mission trips both domestic and abroad.  Awesome stuff!

Then I asked him how they were reaching the lost students in their community and the answer shook me up. ¬†“We leave that to other churches in the area. ¬†There are so many churches and most kids can find a place to go. ¬†In our suburban area, the students have an attitude of entitlement so we don’t purposefully look for ways to reach them.” ¬†Seriously. ¬†These were the words I heard. ¬†Ouch.

I guess the Great Commission really says, “Just go into the destitute areas and tell those people about me. ¬†Leave the privileged and ‘entitled’ to their own devices.” ¬†I really believe Jesus cringed as He was listening to this conversation. ¬†Many of us in student ministry are trying to figure out what’s wrong or what needs to change in student ministry. ¬†I can say its attitudes like this that need to change. ¬†For us and our students, the mission field is not only at the soup kitchen or a third world country…it is the person right next to us who looks like they have it all together.

As adults, we have to lead the charge. ¬†We cannot have the attitude of “I’ll let someone else take care of that” when it comes to meeting a need that someone has.

Tell me about a crazy conversation you’ve had that you never expected….

About Marjorie

Marjorie is a NW girl who now calls the Nashville, TN area home. She is VP of Events for Fuselage and wears many hats in that position, but the most important is working with Student Pastors to provide ways to reach students. Marjorie is also passionate about seeing people living out their dreams and using their gifts to make a difference around them.


  1. terryweaver says:

    I actually cried when you told me about this story. I kinda want to call the guys Pastor and get him fired. But sadly the Senior Pastor is really the one that had this vision for his church. The ministry of Jesus was disrupt the entitled and to bring comfort and healing to the broken. 

  2. Marty Estes says:

    Unbelievable. ¬†Just unbelievable. ¬†I’m really sorry to be in the same category as this joker.

    • Yeah, it is heartbreaking that some guys just try to do their “job” the easy way. ¬†I really am not trying to downplay what his students ARE doing…but to cast off the students in their area and letting them be someone else’s problem is upsetting. ¬†Thank goodness I know that not all youth pastors are like this. ¬†ūüôā

  3. Nitengaleak says:

    ITS BECAUSE THE YOUTH PASTOR DOESNT HAVE THE KNOWLEDGE TO COMBAT THE BACKWARDS PHILOSOPHIES THAT OUR HIGHSCHOOL AND COLLEGE AGE YOUNG PEOPLE ARE SPEWING!¬† If you shy away from “enlightened” young people, go find out what they believe and ENLIGHTEN THEM on why Christ has so much more to offer!!!!¬†

    • Thanks for your response. ¬†What is sad about it is that this person seemed to think that way of doing ministry was great. ¬†Jesus didn’t pass up an opportunity to talk to the rich young ruler. ¬†He wanted everyone to know about grace.
      We don’t have to have all the answers when reaching out to students, we just have to have a willingness to reach out. ¬†Just taking the time to be in the schools…helping out teachers and coaches, tutoring, hanging out at lunch…all things that we should be doing to reach students where they are at and I believe that is the responsibility of every student minister.

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